My sexual orientation sometimes changes, too.

My primary orientation is towards women. I love women. love relating to them, love having sex with them, love the way they smell and the way they move and everything about them. I can nibble on women all day long, flicking my tongue out and tasting them like a snake.

I have had a lot of sex and more than a few relationships with men. Men, I either really like or shove away. Problem is, they tend to be attracted to me, and when I'm in a phase where I'm actually dating men I fall over them wherever I go. When I'm not dating them (like I'm not dating them now) I still fall over them, but don't feel too badly about kicking them away when I need to.

I play with boys, sometimes. Boys are easy. I'm awfully fond of a couple of them. But I refuse to call myself bi because what I really want more than anything else in my sexual life is relationships and sex with women.

It's easier to be a dyke, most days. It's a hard line, one that people can see and respect. The real line is much, much softer and more flexible. But trying to explain this to people I've just met is tiresome and makes me sound completely indecisive.